Y higher ground than Catcha/zed cohort #wife

Trigger: I recall my chat with Sonny Lim, and also my recent reconnect sessions with ex-colleagues in Catcha/Zed/NewSilkRoute

Yet another free-flow historical review. Don’t aim for completeness. If I come up with one unique item it would be a gem.

Let’s focus on higher_ground, but I’m deliberately vague about it. Lower ground is 被动, defensive, struggling,,,

Q: why am I on higher ground than those guys? Let’s focus on deeper, less obvious reasons.

  • thrifty and hardworking wife .. Not sure about some of their spouses, but I think mine is a rare gift from God.
  • my kids did put in effort .. piano, diet, tuition, homework. Not sure about their kids.
  • My bold venture to U.S. and WallSt .. life-changing journey that those ex-colleagues didn’t have.
    • career longevity -> quiet_confidence about family cash flow. My dev career is likely to run till 60’s, unheard-of outside WallSt.
  • [20] IV + delivery skills .. IV is part of job-hunting which includes trec
  • [20] over the decades, coding test has become widespread. I happen to have some competence and a long-term hobby. Together they raise me to higher ground.
  • appreciation of my HDB home + Beijing home
  • SG citizenship .. a rising foundation (of my high ground), but invisible
  • [20 = personal habit, skill,, over 20Y ]
  • — minor or obvious factors, or factors less relevant to higher_ground_than_peers.
  • [20] burn rate control .. cumulative effect! Note 1) portfolio and 2) nonwork income … (as factors) are overrated.
  • [20] wellness habits .. invisible effect except BMI and belly; frq of sickness; frq (I didn’t say “duration”) and absorbency of workout; insomnia; cardio;
  • UChicago credential .. fairly visible. It gave me higher ground in terms of insider insight into branded colleges. This credential is rare among my peers.

ordinary folk: cash flow struggle > health struggle

In any developed country, I believe more than 50% (possibly 70%) of the people struggle, on a monthly if not daily basis, more with finance health (denoted FF) than with physical health (denoted HH). These households could be on cash flow low ground or high ground. See notes below.

Some (lucky) individuals don’t struggle with either. (Let’s not bother to ask why.) They are out of scope, possibly outliers.

— Q: what specific “things” do other people envy in someone “successful” like TB? I think Mostly they envy the visible signs of success:

  • A: (jolt) not quick commute, but a (visible) prestigious office location, even if it requires long commute
  • A: (jolt) not career longevity, but a (visible) brank
  • A: (jolt) not Fuller Wealth, but exclub wealth including big home. Hurts brbr and closer to the cash flow low ground
  • A: (jolt) not an attractive spouse (not at my age anyway) or stable marriage, but a high-earning spouse
  • A: (jolt) not health (invisible) but health insurance and (visible) athletic fitness
  • A: branded degrees + academic kids

— visibility: financial status is one of the most visible of all statuses. In contrast, Health “status” is less visible. (Overweight is visible but too common to be a concern.) You could be more healthy than a friend, but usually the difference isn’t visible. Due to the less visible difference in this “status”, I guess most individuals consider themselves in reasonable/acceptable health condition.

Here’s another way to put it — if each person is asked to self-classify into one of three health status zones of

  • deep-green i.e. no known issue whatsoever
  • yellowish green i.e. acceptable, even if not perfect
  • red i.e. non-trivial health conditions

.. then I think the yellowish green zone would be the widest and the default zone. Consequently, most individuals don’t feel the urge or the need to make big healthcare decisions or major lifestyle changes (HH). Actually, many people had better work hard to reduce weight, eat and drink less, quit specific habits… but these individuals self-identify with the yellowish green zone and feel no such urgency.

On the other hand, they all have to work (sometimes pretty hard) for a living, 辛苦工作, 省吃俭用. Therefore included as a FF component. Specifically, I perceive a “financial struggle” whenever I see folks worry about job loss, mid-career transition, long term family livelihood, retirement planning, inflation in healthcare, education and housing … Endless variations of Insurance products have been designed to address these financial struggles.

Who on earth need not economize their financial resources? Even the rich need to do so, but economization and give-up isn’t always a financial struggle. How about the Beijing home ownership dream? It easily costs RMB 10M but the ordinary salary is

— longevity target .. Most individuals don’t aim to live beyond 85. So they accept some non-trivial health conditions (HH), and they often decide not to make certain sustainable lifestyle changes (HH).

Note these changes are often tough over the long term. Remember the Promethean struggles in this blog.

— cash flow low ground .. A sizable portion (10%?) of the population seem to be stuck struggling on cash flow low ground. For them, wellness struggle is a low priority unless for a medical reason.

prudent estimates #HF.Sun

Hi (name removed for privacy),

I think you are more precise in your estimate than other people, so let me improve my precision of the estimates I shared with you. I was formally trained as an engineer and mathematician, so I appreciate your precision.

— You mentioned a friend aspired to generate enough dividend income to replace salary. I estimated 4% dividend yield for her (or him). That’s too conservative.

I like U.S. stocks. Some reputable U.S. stocks pay higher dividends than 4%. A less pessimistic estimate is 5%. To support SGD 60k/Y family burn rate, SGD 1.2M needs to go into stocks. How many of us can afford to invest SGD 1.2M into stocks , stop working and live on the dividend income indefinitely?  I still feel this plan is impractical.

In many stories, a dividend stock can grow in NAV. Your friend may buy at $100 and receive 4% yield, while the stock grows to $150, paying out $6 a year, i.e. 6% yield computed from initial investment. However, based on my observation, I believe such success stories are rare even in the U.S.

High growth and dividend yield seldom co-exist. Your friend must be lucky (or skilled) to hit such a hero stock.

U.S. dividends are taxable incomes, but I’m unfamiliar. I did receive tax return documents from my U.S. broker, showing the dividend incomes. Assuming 20% marginal tax rate, then the 5% dividend yield becomes effectively 4%.

— We discussed cash payout “yield” and You asked about mine in my portfolio. I bought (or in the process of receiving) rental properties, private equities (i.e. high yield debts), stocks, unit trusts … paying above 4%. ( I will exclude those investments paying out below 1%. ) So a more precise average payout is 6-7%. A more conservative estimate is 5-6%.

My “weighted average” calculation is dominated by realized rental income. Realized rental income is much lower than gross rental income, due to vacancy, commission, taxes, FX conversion, condo fees etc.

I think Singapore private residential properties are unlikely to generate 4% realized rental yield. However, Singapore property NAV often grows, so realized rental yield could grow beyond 4%. Not familiar. I don’t think the rental amount grows as fast as NAV.

I used 4% as a benchmark partly because CPF-SA/MA/RA pays 4%, also because the U.S. mainstream view on dividend uses 4% as a criteria for high-dividend.

— I estimated my developer career to end in my 70’s. It might end in my late 60’s, depending on demand and my health.
Some WallSt developer colleague (Shanghai guy in his 50’s or 60’s)  told me “If you enjoy coding, then you can work remotely, so colleagues don’t care about your age.” This theory will extend my developer career by a few years, but I don’t look forward to telecommuting.

— My target life span is 95 years. I will not give a more prudent estimate. (Prudent means planning for longer lifespan like 99.) Instead of “more prudent”, here is a more substantiated estimate:

https://www.singstat.gov.sg/find-data/search-by-theme/population/death-and-life-expectancy/visualising-data/lifeexpectancy shows that for a male Singaporean of my age, there’s a 11% projected likelihood to live till 95. If I am among the 11% most long-living males in my age group, then I would hit my target.

Q: how many percent of Singapore guys in my age group can work till their 70’s in a white-collar knowlege intensive job?
A: I think it’s below 11%, perhaps mostly in legal, architecture, healthcare(钟南山, same age as my dad), academic/education (like my father and many of his classmates)…

Therefore, my dev-till-70 career longevity goal is harder than my live-till-95 longevity goal. My father said both targets are realistic, if I work towards them. I believe my father and I believe in myself.

https://www.cpf.gov.sg/Members/Schemes/schemes/retirement/cpf-life sayd 1/3 of Singaporeans would live beyond 90. I think this 33% is a conditional probability given that “you are a Singaporean aged 65 now, regardless of health or age”

level@confidence in effort^talent^luck

Background — locus@control blogpost

Q1: Examine the causes of some exceptional result in a person (not an organization). Which cause gives you more confidence — personal Effort of the individual, talent or external factors like luck, timing, advantageous location (SG/WallSt)  or the current favorable competitive landscape?

My answer focuses more on wellness than personal finance or career resilience. For career resilience, the competitive supply/demand/SWOT landscape is the backdrop (and the elephant in the room), so we can only compare effort vs talent against this backdrop.

Luck is, by definition, least dependable least consistent.

— Innate talent? Most people associate innate abilities with long-term reliability but I am skeptical. I don’t think there is any scientific experiment to measure these ill-defined qualities. How about

  • creativity in arts or writing
  • endurance of heart/lung/muscles
  • knee (and other) joint resistance to wear
  • aging of bone strength
  • aging of memory capacity
  • aging flexibility

— Reliability of our own effort is even more controversial. I have confidence in habitual effort of burn rate control (in me and other family members), tech xx (QQ, coding drill etc), but less in tough wellness regimes such as

  1. starch and fat restriction
  2. skip dinner
  3. home yoga
  4. pull-up

As describe [18] CONTINUOUS coding drill, the effort needs to become a sustainable (ideally lifelong) lifestyle element. Only then will it produce long-term benefit.

—-

Q2: if talent and effort are both less reliable than needed, then are we bound to lose the exceptional/excellent condition such as the current carefree life? (At the national level, is Singapore bound to lose it’s exceptional position? )
A: as far as my nuclear family is concerned, I am the best reliable pillar one can find, in both effort and talent, and also my judgement, but less reliable in my health.

This Q2 reveals the implicit relativity in reliability of individuals. Every human being is less than 100% reliable, in talent, in effort/motivation — This is beyond debate. However, (one aspect of) one individual can be more reliable than another individual.

Take wellness effort/habit as example. Compared to my age group, if my reliability is at least average, then the good results (above-average wellness condition) is likely to last. I can’t and don’t need to match the wellness effort of a super-healthy individual (who?); I only aim to be better than average. The average guy’s wellness declines at some rate. My decline is likely slower.

Therefore, going beyond wellness, my overall answer to Q1 is — I have more confidence in Effort than talent or external factors. Effort including motivation, habit, a focus on the right priorities.

— Singapore’s position?

PM LHL said “Singapore must guard that reputation zealously.”

My confidence in Singapore is more in the effort, commitment, attitude, trust in government, less in talent or geographic location.

The competitive landscape is the least reliable factor, offers temporary protection and advantage, always shifting and never to be taken for granted.

grateful 4 my absorbency with… #fruits

Below I say “grateful” or “lucky” but actually, these are mostly efforts rather than luck. See locus@control: carefree high ground mostly due2effort

roughly ranked in rarity and value (i.e. amount of benefit)

== wellness – diet
— grateful with my absorbency to eat a variety of …. raw veg
— grateful with my absorbency to enjoy …. fruits as 50% of my daily food intake.
The MLP pantry lacy said that most people can’t take in so much fruits.
— lucky to have no hunger until afternoon

== wellness – workout
— grateful to enjoy … jogging
— I hope to become lucky with absorbency for … yoga home practice
But not lucky with my late-night hunger

== tech learning
— grateful with my absorbency for QQ self-learning
— grateful with my absorbency for coding practice
Actually, some individuals have even higher absorbency for it.

== finance
— grateful with my capacity to … save money without suffering or loss of control
— grateful with my capacity to enjoy life in a smallish HDB apartment

[20←07]factors underpinn`changes since1st summer]US

Am I exaggerating anything? Any accute attachment to beware?


See also


The trigger — After revisiting my 2007 email/diary such as big cities more expensive @@ #LS, I want to write yet another review of the fundamental factors that Explain or has Driven all the  major changes in my life. Not to become yet-another review, let’s focus more on the factors, less on the changes.

Beware of othRisk. Avoid polishing.

My focus continues to be family livelihood, not FOMO, exclub, peerComparison, brank,,, A second focus in this blogpost is my own American dream as of summer 2007.

  • [j] #1 big factor — my tech expertise and delivery skill — in the lucrative and prosperous tech (dev+) job market, esp. on age-friendly WallSt.
  • [f] #2 big factor — my brbr /discipline/ — while witnessing my own income growing so much since 2007. I think this is similar to Singapore government’s discipline.
  • #3 fundamental factor — SG citizenship — relative decline of America’s appeal to me, and relative rise of Singapore’s advantages. I value my citizenship much more than between 2007 and 2016 !
  • fundamental factor — wellness — habits, health conditions (体质)…. The absense of health issues is like the absence of family problems, absence of investment foes, absence of career failures. An invisible dome surrounding Hogwarts in the final Harry Potter movie.
  • [j] fundamental but minor factor — WallSt trec as a passport through the moat
  • [f] minor factor — Beijing + Blk177 property appreciation, rental yield of overseas properties
  • fundamental but minor factor — my English skill — helps my job interviews and job performance, esp. compared to my Chinese and Indian peers. English writing skill is instrumental to my self-help while coping with challenges
  • fundamental but minor factor — my relatively low racial bias — I think my Indian colleagues like me a bit more than other China colleagues

Now let’s list the major changes since 2007 and try to explain them

  • change in my life — confidence in marriage — was untested in 2007, with pretty high inherent risk of failure based on statistics. We have worked on the problems and weak spots.
  • [f] measurable change — brbr — Despite my bigger family (with 2 noisy kids), my current brbr and Fuller wealth (ffree) are so much higher than in 2007, partly due to brbr discipline, salary, SG citizenship , nonwork income, ,
  • change in my life — livelihood resilience/security — stronger (and growing), with layers of defense, giving my much higher confidence than 2007. I was already healthy in 2007, but now I’m /buffered/ on many fronts such as career longevity, strong marriage, citizenship
  • specific change — Green Card dream — is a bit lower than 2007, mostly due to my new view of SG^US. Nowadays, I don’t feel as desperate about GC as my China/India colleagues.
  • [j] specific but minor change — c++ in my peers — is no longer 高不可及. Ditto low-latency java
  • [j] specific but minor change — WallSt moat — was seen as too deep and wide back in 2007
  • specific but minor change — car purchase — was widely known as inevitable back in 2007. Now I know better from experience.
  • internal change — target 95 as life expectancy — now I want to live longer. This is exactly where I want to be.
  • internal change — internally mellowing up — and more optimistic. Even though my position among my peers is much higher than in 2007, I now care more about family livelihood, less about FOMO, brank, income, net worth, OC-effective, exclub
  • [j] internal change — churn, accumulation of experience — I didn’t have solutions, cool confidence… as explained in risks remain high but am calmer
  • [j] change — long-horizon income security — was low for decades as everyone around me said developers must move up to management by some age 35, and struggle to keep the job and maintain the income until its eventual decline. Now I have 50% more confidence, primarily due to WallSt experience
  • [f] minor change in my life — balance sheet — I am now proud owner of Singapore, Beijing properties + some commercial properties, all in prime locations. We are on track to receive a reliable and high-yield annuity backed by a credit rating comparable to the most trusted insurer.
  • [d=detachment needed]
  • [f=personal finance]
  • [j=career]

##[19]a few games I Aced visibly #MSFM,belly

Title is lousy. No point improving it.

I /aced / killed / thrived at/ many games. Most visible and most profitable game in this list is tech IV, including

  • 1a) branching out to c# and c++
  • 1b) quant self-study to impress many technology interviewers

The above topic already has many many posts in my blogs. Below are other games I excelled in:

  1. excellent grades up to college Year 1
  2. Earned MSFM with flying colors at age 42 — sustained focus, self mastery
  3. paid off multiple rental properties + my own home, by age 43. All in good locations with reliable rental demand.

Some domains are not really competitive “games” but still I excelled visibly:

  1. no belly (as Nick pointed out); weight loss in late 2018, along with pull-up. Jogging habit.
  2. keeping burn rate very low, and achieving some form of ffree around age 30 and again at 43

It’s instructive to recognize the pattern.

  • I think in each game, I had some talent, and a long-term consistent effort.
  • External positive feedback is far from powerful , immediate or frequent, so internal motivation is crucial.
  • All are individual games, not team games. Note promotion is not my game and I don’t need to kill this game to be comfortable and satisfied.

[20] Comfy position in cohort #priorities,strengths

##[19] living%%dream life, here-n-now is more useful because I need to progressively shift my focus away from (brank) peer-comparison, and focus more on comparison to my past.

We instinctively know, to varying degrees, where we stand among our chosen peer group. On some games I feel I am unlikely to improve my relative standing, so I need to reconcile:
* kids academics
* brank — I didn’t say “income”. Consider the Siddeshes in my circle.
* double income, white-collar wife

On other “fronts”, I feel confident to maintain my comfortable position relative to peers:

  1. — half-ranked by surprise, beyond the big5 topics like sg citizenship, wellness, cashflow (brbr, Fuller wealth, retirement planning, ffree). It’s important to de-emphasize these big, common factors so they don’t overshadow the smaller, more interesting factors
  2. stable marriage, valuable support from grandparents
  3. top college insider insight — relaxed attitude towards and some insight into it
  4. lower fear of job loss, lower work stress .. thanks to contract
  5. HDB home ownership — low maintenance
  6. coding IV — as benchmarked against my age group on Wall St
  7. QQ IV — coreJava and c++ are both fairly stable and low-churn over a 30Y horizon.
  8. mobility across multiple job markets
  9. work-till-70, life-long learning, access to age-friendly job markets

— How did I achieve this comfortable position, this carefree, complete life?

Actually, G5 Shields@family_livelihood is a more thorough, more rigorous analysis that’s relevant to this question.

locus@control: carefree high ground mostly due2effort also answers this question, from a different angle.

To further explain my well-protected carefree and ffree that’s uncommon among in my age group, I decided to ask two questions below.

Q: how are my chosen priorities “different”, excluding the common, basic ones (like job security, stable family, kids)
A: here are some priorities that my peers don’t give enough attention

  1. career longevity till 80’s — instead of brank, salary bracket (exclub)
  2. healthy longevity — I still need to give more sunshine to my flexibility
  3. current nonwork income — instead of windfall appreciation. Instrumental to my early ffree.

A: here are some priorities of my peers that I don’t care much:

  1. luxury IMO — top schools for their kids
  2. luxury IMO — (usually big) home in a top school district

Q: my strengths?
A: top 3 strengths unranked:

  • brbr;
  • lifelong xx for IV
  • wellness, vitality

Beyond the strengths, here are some advantages:

  • healthcare + retirement provisions I have set up for my family in Singapore;
  • SG citizenship
  • stable marriage
  • property portfolio — including inheritance

— ffree — the poster boy of my comfortable position

Singapore is a success story in many ways. Its position in GDP ranking is the tip of an iceberg. Likewise, My fledgling ffree is the tip of an iceberg. My Fuller wealth rests on a foundation composed of my strengths and my guiding principles (priorities, habits) listed above.

The ffree draws disproportionate attention but is actually less reliable, less important than the G5 Shields@family_livelihood

Humble — My “success” is not glorious, but it is rare, commendable, worthwhile. Look at the success of MMM, ERE author and other FIRE legends.

##my unconventional choices

I’m sure some of my unconventional choices backfired, but today’s focus is on the successes.

  • [o] 文化程度 in spouse ??????? No I Chose a girl not highly educated but with decent learning attitudes, able to /instill/ the right attitude into my kids
  • [o] 老牌资本主义 U.S./Europe/Australia ????? No I Chose the upstart Singapore. Like my dad, I remain optimistic about Singapore government. See my email drafted around 2020 National Day
  • [f] big, new house on high floor in quiet clean estate ??? No I Chose a small, run-down hdb home in a noisy location
  • [fo] SG local private properties ??? No I chose multiple small overseas prop in very emerging countries. I focused on current yield rather than windfall
  • [go] stable VP job in a big bank ????? No I chose contractor career. Am optimistic about job security.
    • What I got? peace, security.
  • [go] You can’t remain a hands-on guy at your age. Need to improve leadership and comm ??????? No I chose to remain hands-on dev.
    • What I got? dev-till-70
  • develop interpersonal comm skills such as chitchat ??? No I chose to focus on written English esp. vocab
  • build personal network ?? No I never did it on purpose.
  • [w] take care of your appearance like hair, skin… and don’t look so old, as wife told me ??? No I chose to focus on wellness including waistline, stamina
    • What I got? many wellness habits
  • [w] pay attention to your breath ? No I chose to focus on dental health
    • What I got? more “sunshine” on dental health
  • [o] In the U.S. you must embrace driving ??? No I chose to stay in places that don’t need a car. I relied on a bicycle.  Am optimistic that I can limit or remove car dependency if I choose my location.
    • What I got? more healthy lifestyle, carefree in terms of car ownership
  • [??.. =the more question marks, the more doubt I have about the conventional wisdom]
  • [w=wellness]
  • [g=gz]
  • [f=per finance]
  • [o=demonstrates my optimism]